what is it all about

I started this blog because of my own daughter. I have wondered what to do with my relationship with her. I have also wondered about my relationship with my mother. I am looking for advise and experiences from other people to add to my quest in figuring out what this difficult relationship is all about. I am hoping that we can work at all of this together. How does it all change, why is it so confusing and hurtful for us? Help