I am so excited because my daughter is expecting the first grandchild. It is a girl, we are all so excited about the wonderful event. I have worked on making some wonderful gifts for my new granddaughter and my only daughter. I have been totally crushed by my daughters attitude. I have a home that is too large for one person to live in. I made a mother-in-law apartment because I had a friend that need a place to stay for a short period of time and was hoping that when my daughter and her husband were in town they would come and stay with me. My daughter and her husband live back East while they are getting their Masters. My daughters father-in-law pays for everything and she said they feel obligated to always stay with him. It is how they can pay him back when every they come to town. ( I have a lot more private room for them at my house.) They are staying in a small but comfortable room in her in-laws basement. If they were with me they would have a full basement, their own kitchen. I think my son-in- law hates me. When he comes to my home ( he is hardly ever here) He is always on his phone looking up this and looking up that. He is texting and can only watch sports and seems to be bored with anything we do. We are a small family but we laugh play games and use to have a good time together. He will play with us but I can tell he just feels obligated just to come over. I am not playing the roll of a martyr. I am just trying to state some facts. He acts like he likes me to my face and is nice to me. I can tell he just does not want to be around me. My daughter and I use to have a pretty good relationship.
They have traveled home many times and always have stayed with his father and step mother. At first my daughter use to complain about them when they were first in her life. They would fight and she always told me how controlling her husbands dad was. I believe now they have stolen her mind and she now is one of them. She talks like them and thinks like them. I am not sure who my daughter is any more. I am not saying we have always gotten along but she seems to be someone else, money is too much a part of her life. I am not sure what to do... any advise from anyone. I find myself being hurt and being a sad. I don't let her see me like that because she gets defensive and it makes things worse. What does anyone have to say, any advise... I need help.

what is it all about

I started this blog because of my own daughter. I have wondered what to do with my relationship with her. I have also wondered about my relationship with my mother. I am looking for advise and experiences from other people to add to my quest in figuring out what this difficult relationship is all about. I am hoping that we can work at all of this together. How does it all change, why is it so confusing and hurtful for us? Help